So I arrived back in England but determined one way or another I was going to be returning to Thailand in the not too distant future but before I could start my plans I wanted some answers from my friend in Canada!
Normally when a Thai girl takes you for a ride it is money that they are after and will go to extreme lengths to get it, hence picking up a girl in a bar here is the easiest thing to do even if you are the Elephant man. However in this case, no requests for money were ever made, so what was going on?
I knew I would be able to contact her online quite easily as so it proved. Almost as soon as I logged in for the first time, she was there asking me to forgive her etc. Bearing in mind I was still a little fragile from my separation and impending divorce I was hurting to a fair degree as I really liked Suzi. She showed me the kindness I had not been used to for many years, going out of her way to make sure my holiday, spent with her, was as good as it got.
This was my first real lesson about Thai girls - how do you get a straight answer to a straight question? It's never easy, even with my Thai wife now (more about her later). Suzi was full of tears when we spoke, how genuine I am not sure but what I did know was that I was never going to get an answer that made any sense to me so I have only one option and that was to move on and chalk it down to experience. (Thankfully it remains mostly a happy memory).
I took a little time out to gather my thoughts and map a way forward not realsing at the time that within the next few weeks I was going to meet the girl I would eventually marry. I touched base with 6 girls from different areas of Thailand and made it know to all of them that I was talking to others at the same time. Some didn't mind and some took exception to that fact. Bad luck! they were soon removed from the contacts list and the focus was narrowed down to two. One in Hat Yai near the border with Malaysia and one from way up in the north east in Udon Thani. With no agenda other than wanting to meet at least one of them the next time I visited Thailand I was chatting most days with both of them but knew it was probably unrealistic that I would meet both unless things were so bad between us, I therefor had to make the choice as to which one to visit.
Normally when a Thai girl takes you for a ride it is money that they are after and will go to extreme lengths to get it, hence picking up a girl in a bar here is the easiest thing to do even if you are the Elephant man. However in this case, no requests for money were ever made, so what was going on?
I knew I would be able to contact her online quite easily as so it proved. Almost as soon as I logged in for the first time, she was there asking me to forgive her etc. Bearing in mind I was still a little fragile from my separation and impending divorce I was hurting to a fair degree as I really liked Suzi. She showed me the kindness I had not been used to for many years, going out of her way to make sure my holiday, spent with her, was as good as it got.
This was my first real lesson about Thai girls - how do you get a straight answer to a straight question? It's never easy, even with my Thai wife now (more about her later). Suzi was full of tears when we spoke, how genuine I am not sure but what I did know was that I was never going to get an answer that made any sense to me so I have only one option and that was to move on and chalk it down to experience. (Thankfully it remains mostly a happy memory).
I took a little time out to gather my thoughts and map a way forward not realsing at the time that within the next few weeks I was going to meet the girl I would eventually marry. I touched base with 6 girls from different areas of Thailand and made it know to all of them that I was talking to others at the same time. Some didn't mind and some took exception to that fact. Bad luck! they were soon removed from the contacts list and the focus was narrowed down to two. One in Hat Yai near the border with Malaysia and one from way up in the north east in Udon Thani. With no agenda other than wanting to meet at least one of them the next time I visited Thailand I was chatting most days with both of them but knew it was probably unrealistic that I would meet both unless things were so bad between us, I therefor had to make the choice as to which one to visit.